Posts Tagged ‘grieving’

From Laughter to Tears

Sunday, July 19th, 2009

One of my most moving Chautauqua experiences was attending the Friday night Shabbat service near the Miller Bell Tower by the lake. Although the Chautauqua experience was a Methodist invention for training Sunday School teachers, the Institution is intentional about including all religions, and last week marked the dedication of a Jewish Life Center on the grounds.

Since I’m not Jewish myself and don’t read Hebrew, parts of the service were a challenge, but the closing lines of the Kaddish prayer, translated into English, were so beautiful that I want to share them here. I suspect their beauty and wisdom will bring a tear to anyone who is grieving. I know they did to me.

Kaddish Yatom

When I die, if you need to weep cry for someone walking the street beside you.

And when you need me, put your arms around others and give them what you need to give me.

You can love me most by sharing your joy and multiplying your good deeds.

You can love me most by letting me live not in your mind but in your eyes.

And when you say Kaddish for me, remember what our Torah teaches.

Love doesn’t die. People do. So when all that’s left of me is love, give me away.

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Grief Resources

Tuesday, June 9th, 2009

There are many excellent books about grieving and grief.  Among them:

George A. Bonanno, The Other Side of Sadness: What the new Science of Bereavement Tells Us About Life After Loss (Basic Books 2009)

Allen Klein, The Courage to Laugh: Humor, Hope, and Healing in the Face of Death and Dying (Tarcher/Putnam 1998)

Judy Tatelbaum, The Courage to Grieve: The Classic Guide to Creative Living, Recovery, and Growth Through Grief (Harper 1994, 2008)

Brook Noel & Pamela D. Blair, PhD, I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping & Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One (Champion Press, Ltd. 2000; updated Sourcebooks, Inc. 2008)

Genevieve Davis Ginsburg, Widow to Widow: Thoughtful, Practical Ideas for Rebuilding Your Life (De Capo Press 1995)

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